Similarly, business or resource decisions, often made outside the realm of the cybersecurity team, sometimes lead to vulnerabilities or compromises. Accepting accountability in such scenarios is a part of our job, but it doesn’t make it any less challenging. It requires a delicate balance of maintaining a strong security posture while navigating the complexities of organizational dynamics.

In sharing these vulnerabilities, we open a window into the less-discussed aspects of our role. It’s in these moments of adversity that the strength and resilience of a CISO are truly tested. The path we tread is not just about technical expertise or strategic planning; it’s also about managing the emotional and mental toll that comes with the territory.

Steps to consider when the CISO is not okay 

You may be asked if you’re okay, and your only truthful option on that day is to say “no.” When the burden of the role starts to feel like too much to bear, there are a few paths you can take: 

• Ask for help: See if members of your team can take the more mundane tasks off of your plate while you focus on the most urgent items at hand. 
• Take mental health days or book paid time off: Even if you have nothing planned, days to disconnect and reset can be invaluable in avoiding burnout. If you can’t take time immediately due to a security crisis, be ready to request it as soon as you possibly can.
• Talk to someone: Whether it’s your family, your friends, peers in the CISO community, or a therapist. There is no shame in asking for advice or support, getting help compartmentalizing, or just venting to quiet your mind. 
• Evaluate your department budget: This one is tricky with monetary constraints but see if there is room to hire support or invest in automated security tools that can take work off you and your team, allowing you to prioritize more complex tasks. 

Ultimately, it’s important to remember “this too shall pass,” and find ways to alleviate stress where you can.

We might not always say it, but for the most part, yes, we’re okay. We’re more than okay; we’re committed, we’re resilient, and we’re proud of the pivotal role we play in shaping a secure digital future.